Gratitude and self-compassion practice

You should not judge yourself so harshly that you destroy yourself; instead, recognize your intrinsic worth despite your flaws and inadequacies.

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The strongest voice

“You should not judge yourself so harshly that you destroy yourself; instead, recognize your intrinsic worth despite your flaws and inadequacies.”

a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus of psychology · TikTok

In their own words

One faithful sentence per source, linked to the moment it was said; quiet chips mark where money is involved.

a licensed mental health counselor recommend
“Learning about your inner world and needs and taking care of yourself happens by building a healthy relationship with yourself and surrounding yourself with people who have healthy boundaries.”

a licensed mental health counselor · Instagram

a certified relationship coach recommend
“To be a true giver, one must be able to give to themselves first to avoid feeling empty and prevent giving from becoming a chore or a strategy to get love.”

a certified relationship coach · Instagram

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Love is not just a feeling but a choice, a practice, and a skill that requires showing up and effort even when not in the mood.”

a certified relationship coach · Instagram

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Gratitude is not the result of a good relationship but the cause of it, as every happy couple both felt grateful and lucky to be in each other's lives.”

a certified relationship coach · Instagram

a mental health counselor and author recommend
“You don’t need to be the perfect version of yourself to be worthy; being present and authentic matters more than chasing perfection.”

a mental health counselor and author · Instagram

a mental health counselor and author recommend
“Practice spiritual self-compassion by looking in the mirror and affirming self-love to stop hiding and begin healing.”

a mental health counselor and author · Instagram

a human connection specialist recommend
“Groves encourages people to let themselves be happy and not postpone joy, as many regret not doing so at the end of life.”

a human connection specialist · Instagram

a personal trainer and health coach recommend
“God changes your heart which then renews your mind, influencing your thoughts and behaviors.”

a personal trainer and health coach · Instagram

a personal trainer and health coach recommend
“Pride can manifest not only as arrogance but also as harsh self-criticism and the unrealistic expectation of perfection, which still centers the self.”

a personal trainer and health coach · Instagram

a personal trainer and health coach recommend
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less, shifting focus away from the self rather than deflating or inflating ego.”

a personal trainer and health coach · Instagram

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Love is a choice and a practice that stays alive when we feed it and nourish it, not just a feeling to be passively experienced.”

a certified relationship coach · TikTok

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Every happy couple Jillian Turecki has worked with or known both felt grateful and lucky to be in each other's lives.”

a certified relationship coach · TikTok

a mental health counselor and author recommend
“You don’t need to be the ideal version of yourself to be worth something; being present and authentic matters more than chasing perfection.”

a mental health counselor and author · TikTok

a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus of psychology recommend
“You should not judge yourself so harshly that you destroy yourself; instead, recognize your intrinsic worth despite your flaws and inadequacies.”

a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus of psychology · TikTok

the founder of ManTalks recommend
“There is no quick fix to insecurities; they are a pathway to personal development and require time to address their roots.”

the founder of ManTalks · TikTok

the founder of ManTalks recommend
“Expressing thanks and appreciation for small acts of communication helps avoidant women feel their internal reality is welcome in the relationship.”

the founder of ManTalks · TikTok

a human connection specialist recommend
“Accepting oneself on a deep level is essential for personal happiness and the ability to make others happy.”

a human connection specialist · TikTok

a human connection specialist recommend
“Letting go is better described as letting be, recognizing that your past cannot be changed but your relationship to it can be transformed.”

a human connection specialist · TikTok

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow recommend
“It is beautiful, rich, and our pleasure and duty to help further that beauty and sacredness in reality.”

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow · source video

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow recommend
“We have a duty to see what is hopeful and do the bit we can in our own lives and further larger causes in ways we are best positioned to do.”

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow · source video

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow recommend
“Seeing clearly the beauty and suffering in reality motivates a sacred obligation to protect it.”

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow · source video

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow recommend
“The expert values humor as a vital, life-enhancing force that allows expression of difficult truths metaphorically and warns against puritanical suppression of humor as harmful.”

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow · source video

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow recommend
“Recovering a sense of awe, modesty, and compassion is essential to counteract the arrogance of believing we know all and to reconnect with what truly drives and guides life.”

a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow · source video

a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license recommend
“Dr. Phil advocates for compassion and recognizing the value of people beyond their physical appearance, noting that beauty is not the sole determinant of worth or character.”

a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license · source video

a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license conditional
“Dr. Phil acknowledges that some guests recognize their judgmental attitudes and express a desire to work on themselves, indicating that change is possible with self-awareness.”

a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license · source video

a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license recommend
“Dr. Phil encourages individuals who are controlling to be their own best friend, test limits, do work on themselves selfishly, and seek help to deconstruct walls they have built.”

a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license · source video

a certified relationship coach conditional
“Complete self-love is not required to be in a healthy relationship, but inability to see one's value is a top reason for relationship problems, especially romantic ones.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Self-acceptance is key to self-love; if you hate yourself, you are not accepting yourself, which undermines your ability to be loved and to love others.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Being aware of and changing cruel self-talk to kind, encouraging language is game-changing for increasing self-love and self-acceptance.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Shame from self-hatred is harmful, but guilt and shame can be useful if they lead to accountability without spiraling into victimhood; compassion for oneself enables growth and healthier relationships.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“We learn to love ourselves more through relationships, as others reflect back our value and help us see ourselves differently.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Challenging oneself to face discomfort, such as practicing affirmations or changing habits, is necessary to raise self-esteem and develop self-love.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“People often say negative things to themselves like 'stupid' or 'ugly' which harms self-esteem; becoming aware and stopping this negative self-talk is essential for a healthier relationship with oneself.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Encouraging self-compassion and reducing self-criticism during the healing process helps individuals recognize their strength and resilience.”

a certified relationship coach · source video

a certified relationship coach neutral
“Compassion involves allowance, understanding, and appreciation and is a human trait that may be associated with femininity but transcends gender.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Concealing parts of oneself due to shame or unworthiness leads to matching with partners who want a perfect image, causing withdrawal when true vulnerability emerges; healthy self-esteem and self-acceptance are crucial to avoid this pattern.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Practicing gratitude for having a good relationship helps to wipe out fear and anxiety about losing it, fostering a healthier mindset.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Beliefs about self-worth, love, and relationships profoundly influence anxiety and behavior in relationships, so understanding and challenging these beliefs is essential for healing.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Doing something nice for oneself, like buying flowers or a small gift, helps counteract harsh self-criticism common in people feeling stuck or down.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

a certified relationship coach recommend
“Sometimes self-love means deleting a former partner's number and booking a trip to reconnect with oneself after a relationship ends.”

a certified relationship coach · source video sponsored

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Journaling and self-authoring

If you have a good idea, write it down because it is a gift that could change your whole life and forgetting it could prevent progress.

Strong consensus

“If you have a good idea, write it down because it is a gift that could change your whole life and forgetting it could prevent progress.”

a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus of psychology · TikTok

Metabolic psychiatry and brain energy theory

Mental illnesses are symptoms of metabolic dysfunction affecting the whole body and brain, not just isolated brain problems.

Strong consensus

“Mental illnesses are symptoms of metabolic dysfunction affecting the whole body and brain, not just isolated brain problems.”

a Harvard Medical School psychiatrist specializing in metabolic psychiatry · Instagram

EMDR and trauma processing

He discusses new ways to treat anxiety, OCD, and PTSD by focusing on brain metabolic health rather than only symptoms.

Strong consensus

“He discusses new ways to treat anxiety, OCD, and PTSD by focusing on brain metabolic health rather than only symptoms.”

a Harvard Medical School psychiatrist specializing in metabolic psychiatry · Instagram